Happily Keeping Some Things Private

So this is going to be one ironic blog post… I’m going to share how I’m learning to keep more things private, aka NOT dish it all up on social media and the blog.

I recently mentioned that I’m dating again. Or rather, I should just say that I’m dating. I realized how little I really did it before I got married and now that I’m back in the saddle, dating has changed quite a bit. I have NO idea what I’m doing, but I sure am having fun.

I have a boyfriend. A long-term commitment, giddy with excitement kind of boyfriend. (cue the angels in heaven!!!) 

And he’s amazing. Like really, really wonderful. And I’m smitten. Absolutely smitten. He says he is too… so we’ll see! :)

Boyfriend has taught me something wonderful. He’s not really on social media… sure, he has a facebook account and he understands it but it’s not really his jam. We’re doing real life together, getting to know each other IN PERSON. Isn’t it crazy how foreign that concept is?!? We’re not even facebook friends. We’re not facebook official. He doesn’t have an instagram account. I can’t tag him in anything. Plus he’s a lot more private about what he does and doesn’t share.

And you know what? I absolutely love it.

I love that my social media consumed world doesn’t know all of the details about my dating life, about our relationship.

Chronicling my journey through our separation, divorce, and being a single mom felt right to do here on the blog – you fellow readers reached out to me. You helped me carry the burden that seemed so large that I’d bend under the weight of it. Your stories of being raised by a single mom or your parents divorcing when you were tee-tiny really helped me have HOPE.

But this – this blissfully happy time – this is special, it’s private, and it’s so amazing that I want to protect it from outsider’s eyes or opinions. (Because unavoidably that’s what always happens with social media.)

This kind of happiness and peace is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced in my life. I’m truly happier than I have ever, ever been and watching God redeem things is astonishing.

I feel like I’m watching an amazing love story unfold, completely in denial that it’s truly my life, my story. It feels so amazing that some day I will wake up and realize it was all just a dream. But alas, it seems to be real. It seems to really all be happening.

So for now, just know that this woman is happier than I’ve ever been. I’m blown away by God’s abundant blessings that He is pouring out over me through our relationship, and I’m in awe watching how He is orchestrating all of it.

I would covet your prayers for our relationship: for protection, for discernment, for moving into the future and letting go of the past, for wisdom and for understanding.

Thank you all for rejoicing with me! Things are looking up, friends! :)

  • Libby

    I love this :) I literally laid in bed and wept the other night thinking about how consumed with media my son may be one day. I long for the “good ole days” without the constant temptation to check Facebook, instagram and email. Kudos to you for realizing that true, personal connection is the best, and it doesn’t have to be shared :) BTW, some of your beautiful photos are on my blog from when I was the “bride” for Jennifer Hamilton. I have enjoyed keeping up with your journey!


    • KristenSteele

      Libby, Thank you for sharing in my journey with me — I remember our fun photoshoot well!! :) I pray that we can be good examples to our sons! Hope y’all are doing well!

  • Melinda Speece

    Hey Kristen! This post (well, the part about THE boyfriend) made me think of Psalm 126: When the Lord restored the fortunes of Zion, we were like those who dream. Then our mouth was filled with laughter, and our tongue with shouts of joy; then they said among the nations, “The LORD has done great things for them.” The LORD has done great things for us; we are glad. Restore our fortunes, O LORD, like streams in the Negeb! Those who sow in tears shall reap with shouts of joy! He who goes out weeping, bearing seeds for sowing, shall come home with shouts of joy, bringing his sheaves with him. So thankful for a God who restores!

    • KristenSteele

      Whew friend, this is amazing…. thank you so much for sharing. I do feel like the Lord is RESTORING and that is a very beautiful thing. Love you! xoxo